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Cake day: June 19th, 2023

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  • Yup, same here.

    What’s bad is that some of my family still like to get all pissy when I tell them to gtfo when they come to me for an answer after they’ve wasted my time by arguing over things they had come to me for in the past.

    Don’t ask me your random crap, wait for me to give a good answer, then argue with me. Even if I was wrong, why the hell did you come up me in the first place if you didn’t think I knew what you were asking about?

    Like you, if I don’t know, I say I don’t know. And I’ll be clear about any gaps or uncertainty. More rigorously than I do online because idgaf about random online opinions, and I still usually follow those rules online.

    For a couple of years, I would tell my sister that I’m not her private google after she made a habit of wasting my time asking things and then arguing things that she didn’t know in the first place, and arguing wrong things. Just got tired of being taken for granted.

    Mind you, if she’d heard the answer and just asked more questions, discussing the matter, it would be fine. But saying things as utterly infuriating as “but it said on facebook”, and “I don’t believe you” pushed me to my patience limit lol. Like, what? If you didn’t think I was reliable after the hundreds of things I was right about before, why did you even ask?


  • Okay, I troll the hell out of vegans online, because it’s easy and always entertaining. So, anyone coming along after this, take that into account.

    But, you nailed it. There’s a subsection of vegans that treat it like a religion, and anyone else as infidels. That superiority complex, the smugness is a huge detriment to vegan living and principles.

    But (and here’s why I made the disclaimer), they’re a minority overall. I know too many vegans irl that are chill, wonderful people following their beliefs and ideals without being jerks about it. Vegetarians too, though that’s tangential.

    It’s really online that the asshole hats get put on the most, and usually only on sites/services that make it easy to be anonymous. Which is a good thing! Anonymous discourse is not just important, it’s vital to part of humans becoming better than what we are. But there will always be people that hide their true selves until they’re anonymous and can feel safe, and that includes people that are smug, arrogant assholes down deep. It also includes people that don’t feel safe being an outsider or dissenter, and people that are awesome down deep, but have to keep up a front irl.

    Anyway my point is that we, the non vegans of the world, have to be careful to not forget the human. Vegans are mostly deeply compassionate, kind souls that want the best for anyone and everyone, including animals. We don’t have to agree with them, just remember that the loudest, most obnoxious voices aren’t the sum total of the vegan community.



  • Sexual preference = kinks, positions, etc

    Sexual orientation = the spectrum with hetero and homosexuality at either end, and adjacent categories such as asexuality.

    Identity = a presentation of a social aspect, or the internal self-label for such things.

    In other words, furry world be an identity, with yiff being a sexual preference.

    First caveat: sexual preference used to be what sexual orientation is, but as society shifted to understanding that one’s sexual attractions to the gender spectrum aren’t actually voluntary, they’re inborn, preference was no longer applicable. As such, sexual preference fell out of use for that, but it’s still sometimes used as language catches up. Of more import for this comment is that the use of the term for sexual activities that are preferred is fairly new, I’ve only run across it in the last two years.

    Second caveat: these aren’t dictionary definitions. Dictionaries take longer than people to codify usage changes. These are my attempt at codifying the definitions I’ve seen in the wild, and can’t be taken as authoritative, only as an attempt at clarification with all this taken into account.



  • Pacman

    Okay, I’m old, sue me.

    But that game was my thing back in the eighties. And I wad good at it. Maybe not national best tier, and definitely not world tier, but it was not unusual for me to keep high scores on it that never got beat. The one actual arcade in town, I was never bumped off at all, nobody in town came close. I can’t recall the gap but it was enough higher that there was an extra digit between me and the next highest.

    The arcade over in the nearest city, the gap was nowhere near as big, but it was there.

    Even when I visited my cousin in Charlotte one summer, I took top spot on the machine there, though it did get beat later on. But I never went below third, at least at the time my cousin stopped going there.

    There wasn’t much I was good at that was showy back then. I wrecked shit in spelling bees, and was a decent beatbox (though only decent). Nobody gave a shit about those. I’d play pacman and have a crowd watching. It was fucking awesome for my confidence at the time.

    Wasn’t too bad at centipede either, but I would hover up and down in top ten at the two arcades I could visit regular, which isn’t that impressive if you know the game.

    So, yeah, I’d go and watch pacman players if the event was close enough. I’d even try my hand at it if I didn’t have to go up against kids with their rassafrassin better reflexes lol.


  • Man, that’s a shame. But there’s a limit to how much you can force a chicken into the coop. You do it often enough, and they stop letting you pick them up without a struggle, which kinda defeats the whole thing imo.

    We have a volunteer hen (a feral girl that shares the yard with us) that disappears for days at a time, and I worry about her getting killed by something, but it’s one of those things that keeping her safe would not only be difficult, but would make her scared of us instead of mostly friendly.

    Luckily, the full on pet hen loves the coop, and stays in it by preference when she’s outside at night (she usually sleeps inside, but sometimes decides she’s not in the mood lol), so she can be as safe as any chicken in a coop gets.




  • Man, chickens are absurdly good company. You get one that’s well socialized, and they’re just happy to be near you, making cute little noises and looking all sweet. They’re still apex predators in a prey animal size, so you know, watch your fingers and toes or they’ll get tested for edibility, frequently.

    That’s the down side of chickens. Brains the size of peas and about half as smart as a pea lol.