• Nuke_the_whales@lemmy.world
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    3 months ago

    Last time I had to actually use it in conversation I said “Elliott page is in it back when he was Ellen Page”

    • Kayday@lemmy.world
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      3 months ago

      That’s very logical and easy to understand. Personally I wouldn’t be upset if I was Elliott, but there are many trans people who have a strong aversion to hearing their old name. Again, comes down to the audience, but a lot of folks would say something like, “before he transitioned”, rather than mentioning the old name.

      Hope I don’t sound too nitpicky, just wanted to say it in case it helps.

      • fem@lemmynsfw.com
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        14 hours ago

        My nitpick would be less about the mention of the name and more about the wording of “when he was”. Of course different trans people will view their transition and identity differently, but I was never <deadname>. I was merely known as <deadname>